Tip #18 – Ask Questions
I can honestly say that at this point in the deployment there is little extra I am willing to or wanting to take on – I am beyond tired and just want to spend a solid week sleeping. I know that when my husband gets home he will be tired (I have to constantly remind myself that he has been working for 8months solid with no breaks so it hasn’t been a picnic for him either). One of the things we struggle with is what to do as a family to get conversations starting again and begin filling in the gaps of missed time. My husband isn’t the best conversationalist and the kids haven’t seen him for 8 months so this reunion I decided that we would do Meal Question Cards. This takes the pressure off everyone to have to come up with their own questions and keeps us laughing and talking.
* Make a mix of silly and serious questions
* Give incentives to people with the best answer (no dishes for the best answer, chore free day for the most thoughtful response, extra dessert if everyone laughs, etc.)
* Choose one meal a week to do them at so that it isn’t a pressure at every meal or everyday
* Put a few “Pass” cards out too so that people have the option not to answer something they aren’t comfortable with
* Hide them under their plates so they can’t cheat and plan their answers ahead of time
Hopefully your family will have fun with this, begin to reconnect and start talking about the big and little things that matter to them!
For more information about our tips, resources and books go to: www.whileyouwereaway.org
Our Reunion Handbook can be found at (conversation cards on page 26-33): http://wywa.ca/DEPLOYMENTRESOURCES/Reunion-Handbook-Ver5.pdf
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