Tip # 459 – Weight Loss
This tip generated a lot of chatter! Many of you asked me to report in on how I am doing and be ‘real’ so I thought it would be a good one to “Living It” with. I would love to tell you that it has been 3 weeks of clean eating, great sleeps, and 20Lbs just dropped off… ah… no…
* Stopped weighing myself everyday (my whole day was determined my a number on a scale and I often ate more when I was higher with the defeatist attitude that I am already up pounds so why not) – I have managed to only weigh myself 4 times a week (which is down from 20!). One week I did survive a whole week but then I started worrying that I was gaining and out of control (I sound crazy but some of you must know how it is…).
* I will not to set insane timelines on my weight loss that I always fail on and then eat through the feelings of failure – I cannot tell you the number of times I started to do this. I would ask myself how many weeks until I have to wear fewer clothes (layers do cover a multitude of sins) and then I would start to say things like if you could lose 15Lbs before the warmer weather… it was awful trying to stop doing this. I am determined not to put a timeline to weight loss so I haven’t set any timelines and am just sticking to the goal of permanent life changes.
* I have cleaned out of the house pop and chips – I have stuck to this even though I decided it would be a good idea to go down this aisle in the grocery store and then tried to talk myself into this fabulous looking bag of chips. I repeated the mantra (‘I would rather feel good long term than a short term fix’) and then got the cart and myself out of there. I have also found a good pop replacement (It seems to be the fizz I like) and now have flavoured fizzy water. For those of you in Canada – PC makes a great one!
* I have changed my routine. I had the habit of coming home and snacking – A few times I stayed later at work and just arriving home a little later helped with stopping this habit. If I was home ‘earlier’ I have taken to do a few jobs around the house that aren’t in the kitchen. It has worked so far.
* I have worked hard to get more sleep (when I am tired I use the excuse that I am eating for energy, I also make terrible food decisions when I am tired and stressed) – This one is a challenge for me as I LOVE my sleep. Ideally, I would love to sleep 9 hours a night and this is rarely possible unless I go to bed before my kids! I did manage to go to bed earlier over the past few weeks and it has helped. I am shocked at how organized I have to be in order to go to bed earlier. I also have worked on not watching TV mindlessly and then waking up in the morning saying, “Why did I stay up watching that stupid show?!”
* I am going to work hard on my ‘self talk’ (I think and say horrible things about my body 100’s of times in the day) – I had no idea the amount of horrible things I say to myself until I started to pay attention to them a little more. It starts in the morning some days before I even get up and then I walk past the hall mirror and just continues throughout the day. It has been hard but one way I am looking at it is telling myself I would NEVER say those things to my best friend so I need to start being a better friend to myself.
* I am working on cutting out all diet Coke… I am an addict – I have had three in three weeks. That is pretty good although I want it every day still. The fizzy water has helped and the fact that friends and family are constantly nagging me about it.
I have lost 2Lbs but some of my clothes are feeling better – I don’t have to lie on the bed to get my work pants done up and when I sit down I can still breathe, all good signs! What I discovered these last few weeks is that I am my own worst enemy in other ways too. When I discovered I had lost 2Lbs my first reaction and all the ones following it for days was, “Is that it? This isn’t working? You aren’t working hard enough on this? You have failed, again.” I just need to be happy with the loss and that it isn’t a gain. I am also going to work hard on measuring out food. When I tracked what I was eating, I was shocked. What I put in my mouth throughout the day was quickly forgotten (almost as soon as it passed my lips). I need to get a better sense of what and how much I am eating. No matter what big weight loss companies would like to have us believe, weight loss is a simple formula when it comes to food – calories in and calories out need to, at least, match.
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