Hide Notes – Tip #22
This is a tip that is handed down from my own mother. She died over 10 years ago and I am still finding notes. A couple of weeks ago I opened one of her old cookbooks and there was a note about how good a recipe was and how easy it is to make. I love that she took the time to do this and it makes me feel connected with her too, in some small way even after all of this time.
When my husband goes away, I try to hide cards or notes in his things so he finds them throughout his trip, I put notes in my children’s backpacks or lunch kits and under their pillow at times. The whole idea is that you let someone know that you love them and are thinking of them. I have now extended it to my job too and will often leave notes telling people I loved something they did, value their contribution, etc. This might sound a little mushy but when I know I am possibly making someone else feel good, it makes me feel better too. Your deployed family member could also do this before they leave so that you find them throughout the deployment.
* Hide notes in your children’s lunches, under their pillow or in some of their books too
* If you don’t have time to make your own, I have used a great company: www.sayplease.com There are notes for kids and teens that all you need to do is drop it in their bag or lunch
* If you are unable to hide notes, I had a friend whose husband gave them to their neighbour and the neighbour dropped them in the mailbox at different intervals. The neighbour loved feeling helpful and the family looked forward to them.
* I had pictures printed and put notes on the back and hid them. Our kids loved the pictures and if you have children that aren’t able to read yet it is more meaningful and special to have a visual they can enjoy.
* If you have a digital photo frame you could get a couple of inexpensive memory cards and take different pictures, with the member of your family that is leaving, holding different notes and then use them at different times.
* Keeping it simple, get a block of post-it notes and have your deploying family member write notes and leave them around the house
* If you have a friend who has a family member deployed, do this for them too!
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