Talk – Tip #31
“Talk” is such a small word for something so important. I am sure that there is a lot of talking that goes on in your family but I want you to re-evaluate your conversations and find out how much of it is important and how much has become just routine responses to routine questions within your family. Living in a military family means that you are going to experience a lot of change (within yourselves, your surroundings, your experiences, etc.) and it is important that you talk about it in a meaningful way.
* Don’t ask questions that are going to get you a yes or no response
* Take the time to talk to each other about the things that matter every day (not the same things but things that are really important to you)
* When you are talking together get rid of all distractions – put your cell phone away, turn off the TV or computer, sit somewhere quiet and comfortable, etc.
* Avoid asking complicated or important questions when you are in a hurry
* Use conversation starter cards at meals or as an after dinner game (see our website for conversation starter cards)
* Don’t interupt someone when they are talking or spend the time you should be listening thinking about all the things that you want to say
* If you don’t understand what they are trying to tell you, ask further questions to get a better understanding
* Put time to talk into your schedule and make it a top priority
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