Conversation Cards – Tip #127
Conversation can be strained, difficult or seem impossible when you have a teenager. Their description of a day or events can be a grunt or “fine” and you are more likely to win the lottery than get any further. This doesn’t mean you should stop trying, ask more questions and continue to ask questions that require more than a one word answer (ex. “What did you do today?” not, “How was your day?”). I may be delusional but I truly believe that they want us to keep asking because they aren’t sure of themselves or the answers and need our help – we just have to work on asking the right questions.
** Print these out and work on asking your teen all of these questions throughout the month.
** Re-phrase them the way that would be most comfortable for you to ask them if you need to
** Ask questions even if you are frightened to hear the answer or worried they will get angry or annoyed
– What is the longest you have been without sleep?
– Who would you take on your dream vacation and where would you go?
– How did you meet one of your closest friends?
– What do you find hardest when _________ is away?
– What do you think my greatest strengths and weaknesses are?
– What do you think the best job in the world would be? Why?
– What meal do you crave the most?
– What is your best childhood memory?
– What do you like about military life? What do you dislike?
– What is the longest you have ever had to wait for somebody?
– What was the last compliment you got?
– How do you think you would do on ________(insert game show or reality show)?
– What do you want to accomplish this year?
– What are your 4 favourite songs at the moment?
– Do you think people’s personalities are born or made that way?
– What is the most embarassing thing that I have done?
– What do you think your worst habit is? What do you think mine is?
** For more information go to: http://www.whileyouwereaway.org
** To submit questions of your own, write to: Megan@whileyouwereaway.org
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