Tip #79 – Hug
Even if this is something your teen doesn’t ask for, do it. Human contact is really important and gives everyone a sense of belonging, comfort and strength. If you have an absent family member this will be another way of providing comfort through uncertainty. If you do not do it, they will go looking for this comfort with others…
I think that you should hug your teen everyday or at least a couple of times a week. It is part of not only telling them that you love them but showing them too. Of course it goes without saying that there are places and times for this and they aren’t going to be in front of a school, in the middle of the mall or in front of all of their friends (unless they have asked for one or are comfortable with this). Let them resist you but don’t let this be a reason that you give up. Take the resistence for what it is, discomfort and uncertainty and let that be a motivator for doing it often until they are comfortable recieving hugs.
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