More tips for the tips for Military Families – Tip # 71

Give Compliments – Tip #71

Genuine compliments are not as common as they should be.  Giving and recieving them is a skill.  In my, sometimes fast paced, life I forget to stop and smell the roses and then tell the gardener what a great job they are doing with their roses!  I stop to smell them but it is the next step that I think many of us forget – myself especially.  Your kids will appreciate hearing genuine compliments from you even if you have said them before or you think it is something that they already should know.  Assume nothing when it comes to your children’s self confidence and remember that when a family member is away they will need twice as many from you.

On the flip side, I take little to no time to compliment myself.  When my husband is away I go into single parent mode, re-arrange schedules, make myself more available to my kids, help with homework, work full time, make costumes, lunches, fill out school forms and agendas, call teachers, read stories, do groceries, etc.  The fact is that I feel as though I can’t say “Yeah, Me!”.  I am certain that many of us don’t feel comfortable giving ourselves compliments and when other people do it we brush them off as not being a big deal.  When you are in a military family it is a big deal and I truly believe we deserve the compliments.   Take time to compliment others and each time you do say something to yourself about an achievement or success and teach your children to do the same.

At the dinner table tonight (that’s right, make sure you eat together at the dinner table), go around the table and pay one compliment to each person at the table and finish with yourself.  The compliments don’t have to be huge but they do have to be meaningful and you should be able to provide an example or proof of why you feel the way you do.  Make this a weekly routine and you’ll be amazed at how good you feel and how pleased your children are with themselves.  Below is a sheet that you could create together as a family and complete each week.

Chart from: http://www.kindovermatter.com

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