In our house can be painful trying to get my kids to lift a finger at times (okay, a lot of the time). I am usually greeted with things like, “I have too much homework”, “I am so tired”, “_______ never does it.”. It is frustrating and when my husband is away it leaves me to be the only one nagging which frequently sends me over the edge! There was always a potential argument brewing about who walked the dog last, whose turn it is to empty the dishwasher, putting away their laundry, help with dinner, etc. until we started marking it all on a calendar I got in the after Christmas sales (you need to get one with big boxes for writing). It is so exhausting having to ask and ask for things to be done that I am often tempted to do it myself to save the aggravation but I don’t want my kids to grow up believing that if you complain enough, someone will do it for you.
The only thing that has stopped the discussions (mostly) is our chore chart and dog walking schedule. It is in the kitchen, written out for everyone to see so that we can avoid having a lengthy “debate”. We make it together each month, agree it is fair before posting it up and stick to it whenever possible (my next goal is to work on teaching them to pitch in even when it isn’t written down or jump in when you see someone else is overwhelmed but I think that might need to be a long term goal!).
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