The Gift of Undivided Time – Tip #451
Most 21st Century kids are used to talking, texting and doing something else all at the same time. In actual fact, doing only three things at once is rare for kids. We now live in a world where everyone is multitasking (driving while texting and listening to the radio, eating lunch while talking on the phone and emailing someone at the same time, etc. The downside of this multitasking life is that your children, friends, co-workers and significant other can all feel as though they are not important enough or not really being heard and/or understood. How many of us can really say that we make the people most important to us know they are important by giving them 100% of our attention for even 20mins a day?
This holiday season I would suggest that the largest gift that you can give your children is to them your 100% focus and attention for part of the day each day. This would mean watching a movie and only watching the movie (no answering calls, emails or texting). It would also mean that when you had a meal together that your cell phone was no where in sight and the TV and computer were both off. We are losing the art form of connecting meaningfully with others and this means that people are feeling less and less connected and important to others. I find myself often realizing that I am having a face to face conversation with someone and I haven’t even looked them in the face! The challenge I put to you is that this holiday season, give the biggest gift of all – your complete and undivided attention for at least 20mins a day to those that matter to you. This is a gift that will also give back. Your kids, husband, friends, co-workers, etc. will feel the benefits of your undivided time and if you are really lucky, give it back to you and other people that are important to them.
- Spend an hour a day uncomplete disconnected from technology – ignore the emails, texts, calls etc.
- No screens when eating meals
- Decide what is urgent and an emergency – there are few things that you truly need to be reached immediately. Remind yourself of what an actual emergency is – we have forgotten.
- Let family, friends and work know that you are going to be “unplugging” at certain times in the day
- Take the phone out of your bedroom at night
- Pay for a messaging service and record a message that will let people know who else they can reach and how to contact you in an emergency so you don’t feel that you have to talk to everyone right that minute
This tip will truly benefit you as much as it will benefit those that need you, care about you and just want to spend time with you. “Unplugging” will give you freedom, perspective and time that counts with the people that matter.
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